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How to Stop Binge Eating, How Keto Helps – Healthy Ketogenic Diet

today we’re talking about binge eating
emotional eating and how we can make changes to our lives to really address
this kind of eating style and have a healthier body hello everyone welcome to
Mind Blowing Health and Wellness with Violet I’m Violet I’m a psychologist and the
reason I make these videos is to help everyone to understand that your mental
health and your physical health come together to create your overall sense of
well-being if you enjoy this kind of video and would like to support me you
can check out my patreon the link is in the description below I’m gonna read to
you the comment that came in from rabbit chow
rabbits rights loved the videos I heard you mention in another video of that
food is fuel and if we aren’t hungry but want something that is psychological I
have this problem severely because my binge eating disorder keno is the only
thing that has helped me because my physical cravings are not there so I
only have to deal with the psychological issues this is much more doable and I
wish others who treat people with the over eating disorders can help their
patients understand that once the physical issues are solved with Kido
then it’s easier to deal with the psychological issues I don’t know if
you’ve spoken to this before but I would love to hear you speak more about this
thanks okay so I want to first give two definitions just so we know what we’re
talking about we’re gonna define binge eating okay which is characterized by
eating large amounts of food in a short period of time typically beyond the
point of feeling full and then I want to talk about the idea of emotional eating
which is eating in response to positive or negative emotions okay so we have
these two different ideas I want everyone to keep in mind that both binge
eating and emotional eating have nothing to do with being hungry we
are eating based on our reaction to something else that’s pushing us to go
seek food and when we actually understand that that’s what’s happening
then all of a sudden we realized that when we
focus on typical techniques to not approach food they’re not gonna work
because things like making sure that I eat really slowly or making sure that I
don’t have certain foods around me in the house aren’t dealing with the actual
reason that we’re looking for the food in the first place so okay so let’s back
up first on a ketogenic lifestyle we end up solving the physiological urge to eat
because we take our ground grams of carb intake per day down to less than 20
grams per cars per day by doing that we’re not getting that dopamine hit that
was causing us to physiologically seek food we’re also not spiking insulin
which was shuttling the sugar that we did eat away therefore leading us to
have to replace the sugar by eating more carbohydrates those two things then
leave us in the situation where we actually can eat without feeling
cravings okay that’s the first part so if we do keto correctly our cravings go
away so then the big question becomes how is it possible that there have been
people who are many many many weeks of doing keto that still report having
cravings and what I’m suggesting right now is that the reason that those
cravings are happening is coming from one of two sources so either a not doing
keto correctly so there’s still too many carbs coming in but if we take a look at
people who are actually doing keto and keeping their grams of carbs super low
and they’re still craving carbs to the southern cravings the other reason is
that it’s psychological my desire to eat is not coming from my body pushing me
it’s coming from my mind pushing me and now we have to talk about okay what
would cause my mind to push me to want to eat when my physical body is not
hungry a lot of the time this is related back to the fact that
as young people so talking about earlier in life when we’re children or even in
our teens in our young adult years food was placed at the center of our sense of
satisfaction so as a very basic level when we eat it satisfies that pain that
we have in our stomach that goes away that feels good this is how our body is
encouraging us to seek food so on that very basic level we eat the pain goes
away oh that’s better that’s one thing but we add to this that psychologically
we often are given food for reward distraction and entertainment so when we
use food as a reward system what happens we’re usually for especially for young
children they do something good and they get a candy that dopamine hit causes
them to chase sweet when we use food as a reward system we get that emotional so
my parents is happy with me but also we’re eating something and we’re linking
those two things together later on in life when we are not feeling great we
look to give ourselves that hug and we end up using food we also use food to
distract ourselves if we’re bored if we don’t know what to do with ourselves
right we’ll use food as / entertainment / distraction and oftentimes we do
entertain around food all of these things are linking that emotional
connection that we have with people to eating which is not about emotion it’s
about fueling our bodies unfortunately though the connections made I want to
use an example because I want you to see really what’s happening here if we take
the idea of an alcoholic and we say look at this situation where an alcoholic
will often report that when they drink they have more confidence and they feel
more calm and so what’s really happening is that when they drink and
that sense of my problems are a little bit further away from me starts to come
in because of course when I’m drinking I’m not focused on my issues but when
they drink and that starts to happen the alcoholic then links this feeling so
this this relief that happens to drinking alcohol and then whenever they
are stressed frustrated scared whenever there’s a negative emotion that comes in
they want alcohol to help them to achieve this feeling of calm this
feeling of confidence is feeling right now if I if that’s what I’m doing
repeatedly that pathway in my brain is gonna get set and I’m gonna seek alcohol
every time to help me to feel relaxed to feel calm to feel in control to feel
confident isn’t solving my problem no because as soon as I’m not drunk my
confidence is gone as soon as I’m not drunk my feeling of agitation and
frustration is back but am i emotionally attached to being able to get to that
feeling that’s over there of yes so I keep drinking to try to get there right
so I’m drinking to try to solve a problem that drinking can’t solve we do
the same thing with food if I’ve been taught throughout my upbringing in my
earlier life that eating cake is the way to celebrate or eating ice cream is what
you do when you’re sad or having a candy is what you have when you’re sad every
time I want to give myself an emotional hug I’m gonna seek food rather than
seeking an a solution to the thing that was causing me to be upset
psychologically the food in the moment seems like it’s doing something good for
me but then physiologically in the long-term it’s hurting me and I know it
that’s the part about this that’s so difficult it’s the fact that I’m
addicted to it also because of that dopamine hit that I’m getting that
pushes me towards keeping doing that poor behavior the same way that the
alcoholic knows that drinking is causing problems in their life
but that dopamine hit keeps them going towards drinking part of the problem
with these programs that focus on changing behavior before understanding
what causes behavior to be there in the first place is that it doesn’t solve the
psychological issue that’s actually happening so what I mean by that is
there are lots of people that have gone through programs for drinking and they
are asked to call people if they feel like having a drink they’re asked to you
know snap wristbands and do all kinds of actions towards reminding themselves
that drinking isn’t the answer but the one thing that is often missing not
always because there’s some programs that are really good and have this but
many programs that what they’re missing is the psychological emotional what’s
actually happening the moment before you want it to take that drink did you have
a fight with someone were you upset lonely frustrated right
are you tired were you so if I don’t address those things and not just notice
them address them there’s a lot of programs where you’re told to look out
for them but then we’re not given the therapy we need to actually address them
so what happens well I noticed that I was angry I noticed that I was lonely or
I noticed but then because I don’t know what to do about it I still end up going
to do my self soothing behavior I actually would need to address it I’m
encouraging people to understand that psychological eating so emotional binge
eating is more than just knowing that I’m doing it and stopping it’s
understanding that I’m doing it because behind there is a lot of emotional stuff
that I’m not dealing with and the way that I soothe myself is through eating
it’s really tough because for many many people
you will start eating a ketogenic lifestyle and taking the carbohydrates
really low is gonna solve your addiction to the
carbohydrates and once our addiction to the carbohydrates are solved we start to
eat normally and it looks to the world like if it was a pure and simple you
were addicted to carbs because you were overeating carbs and you didn’t know and
great and you know what that’s really what it was
however physiological problems and psychological problems are not the same
from a physiological standpoint when I eat a certain food it affects me the way
it affects all humans because I’m a human and every other human that eats
that food is going to be affected a certain way my history only plays a
minor role so what that means is my medical where I live what like on the
planet and all of that has effect but it’s not a great as great an effect as
the fact that I’m human versus when I’m eating psychologically now my history
has a much bigger impact on how I eat food and what I consider appropriate not
appropriate eating compared to the fact that I’m human my
history is gonna be based on my household and that’s very specific
because I could be straightforward Canadian born and raised in in Quebec or
I could be which is what I am Canadian born and raised in Quebec with parents
from Barbados and Trinidad and parents before that from where and where and
with ideas about food from here and there which is different there’s not
another person who’s gonna have that exact combination and had the ideas
about food that were brought up in my particular house when we’re trying to
help people understand why they interact with food a certain way we also need to
understand what their history with food was but also what their history with
their household was what kind of discipline did my family use what kind
of entertainment did my family use how much affection did my family
show how much exercise did my family promote all of the things that happen in
a household that affect what kind of individual you will end up being we need
to make this distinction because yes I’m a human but I’m a specific person and my
psychological motivations to eat are going to be based on my specific person
what that means is that there won’t be a one-size-fits-all if what I’m actually
struggling with is a psychological emotional binge eating story or even
just a psychological emotional eating story there doesn’t actually binge
eating associated for us to get off track even normal emotional eating will
still put us off track because 20 grams of carbs is not a lot take the time to
engage take the time to understand your actual situation so that you can make
better decisions and that means if there’s a psychological element that’s
happening address it so we need to be willing to look at the issues that arise
in our life on the days that I end up eating something that was off plan I
need to be willing to back myself up and look at what I ate look at what happened
in that day that week and find out like why was I chasing carbs especially if I
had been doing a good ketogenic situation or a good low carb situation
all a while why all of a sudden that i emotionally want to eat something off
plan was it about celebrating was it about soothing myself was it about
entertaining myself was it about distracting myself I need to be honest
with me because every person is different my reason is not going to be
everyone else’s reason I want to point out it is seen as normal in our society
to eat comfort foods when you’re upset right the famous ice cream when you have
a breakup it is normal in our society to have comfort food or fun foods when
you’re celebrating right we have cake we have ice cream when we’re celebrating
right it’s considered normal in our society to overeat look at how many
videos we have about mukbangs and look how many time
that we would overeat at Christmas and and Thanksgiving in holidays birthday
parties are examples of times were seen as normal to overeat here’s the problem
when psychologically your connection to food is causing issues for you all of
these things that are shown as normal but yet affecting you in a way that’s
pushing you to eat excessively when society looks at you and sees that your
weight is going up when society looks at you seize all your diabetic now when
society looks at you and see that now there’s a metabolic something happening
you’re getting a slap on the wrist because you overdid it we as a society
also need to take responsibility for the fact that we are encouraging people to
treat food as entertainment that we are encouraging people to use food to
self-soothe and that we encourage people to overeat a holiday is not a reason to
overeat food is fuel holidays are about getting together with family friends and
having a good time a celebration is not a reason to overeat it’s a time to get
together and congratulate someone for something we need to keep it in mind
that for our own health we need to do what’s right for our own health so go to
the party go to the celebration get together with people but eat food for
fuel address emotional issues as emotional issues solve them don’t use
them as excuses or reasons and I’ve been calling excuse as a reason to
self-soothe with food because I’m telling you right now society’s wrong
that’s not what food is for it’s for fuel I really hope that you found this
video helpful I want to thank you for watching Mind Blowing Health and Wellness with Violet if you haven’t already please subscribe by the way I want to point out
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appreciate it thanks for watching and have a good day

Randall Smitham



  1. Lorraine Barker Posted on October 21, 2019 at 3:35 pm

    Greetings from the Cotswolds, UK. So need this right now.

  2. pamisjaming Posted on October 21, 2019 at 3:38 pm

    I'm off track; and trying to get back into the swing of things.

  3. Maximus Ketones Posted on October 21, 2019 at 4:17 pm

    Great video ! This inspired me to reach out to a psychologist I know, who is also full keto, to speak to our group about the emotional side of this

    Even though I teach keto and have taught nutrition for over 33yrs, I still tend to over eat at night because before Keto I had IBS for SO long that evening was only time I could really eat (had clients all day so didn’t want to be bloated)
    I find I’m slipping back into that habit even though I know I’m not physically hungry

  4. Claire Sanders Posted on October 21, 2019 at 6:18 pm

    Very informative. Thanks.